Friends! I am so thrilled to introduce you to Ashley Moore, the talented woman behind Southern Farmhouse Designs!
I had the honor of meeting her while coaching at the Pursuit Tampa Retreat back in February and we connected immediately! She is such a gift and she is so vulnerable and transparent below- I know her story is going to resonate with so many of you, so check it out below!
Share where you currently live:
Share where you grew up:
I grew up in Crandall, TX, a small town southeast of Dallas.
Share about your family/your job/living situation:
I am a wife of almost 8 years to Matt. We have 2 hilarious kiddos, Emma (6) & Brady (4). I am a former 7th grade teacher. I retired from teaching after having Emma. Then in 2014 when we renovated our current home, Matt jokingly told me that I should start a design business. I took him seriously cashed in my teacher retirement & put it into starting my interior decorating company, Southern Farmhouse Designs.
Share your favorite book and/or podcast:
I love love love The Happy Hour Podcast with Jamie Ivey. I listen to it on my drives into Houston to meet clients. On the podcast she interviews some amazing Godly women who are in all different stages of life. I also love listening to The Big Boo Cast with Melanie Shankle & Sophie Hudson---those girls are hysterical.
Share your favorite quote and/or Bible verse:
“The Lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you; He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” -Zephaniah 3:17
Share your favorite beverage:
I recently learned what a Michelada was from a local BBQ joint, Tejas Craftory, here in Tomball. It’s basically bloody mary mix with a beer, but at Tejas they make their own mix & it’s outta this world.
I also love a good cup of coffee & my maw maw’s sweet tea.
Share one of the biggest losses you’ve experienced:
My loss started in 2014 & didn’t realize what was going on. We were in the midst of selling our first house, buying our second house & remodeling it. The new house was 30 minutes away & my daughter started PreK in our new town. I was driving her to & from school every day, making all the design decisions in our new home & had a 1 year old who wasn’t sleeping through the night. I was stressed to the max but just kept pushing through. In 2015, things settled down but my healthy--physically & mentally really declined I gained weight, was losing hair, and in a constant mental fog. I had no energy whatsoever and my son still wasn’t sleeping through the night. I just assumed my constant state of exhaustion was due to a lack of sleep & I’m sure it was, but something deeper was going on. After going to the dr & having blood work done, thyroid check & everything coming back normal I was at a loss. I continue to push forward, putting on a happy face to everyone, trying to be everything to everyone, starting a business, being a wife & mom, but I was going deeper & deeper into a dark hole. My family suffered, my marriage suffered, my friendships suffered. It wasn’t until mid 2016 that I realized that I was suffering from depression. It was so hard for me to realize it because I couldn’t figure out why I would be depressed---I was starting my dream business, my husband is the love of my life, we have 2 of the best kids & we were in our forever home. But I constantly felt unworthy, alone & sad all the time. I spent 2 & a half years in the fog of depression & didn’t know it. Although we have some great memories of those years as a family, I feel like I truly lost the sense of myself during that time.
Share some of the choices that have been most helpful in continuing to move you forward and supporting you while you are healing:
During this time I leaned into Christ so much. I knew the only way I was going to fully come out on top of this was to lean into Him. He knew it was going to happen to me. He knew just what I needed if I would just reach out to Him. I leaned & He stood firm. Being in The Word daily & reading what He says about me made a heck of a difference in my daily life.
I also reached out to a medical doctor to help me heal during this time. And my precious husband was a constant support during this time. Once he knew that I was truly suffering from something that I had no control over, he was a saint. He stood by my side, was my rock & constantly reminded me that I was loved & wasn’t alone.
I also learned to take some time out for myself--doing things that make my heart happy--whether it’s taking a nice long bath, enjoying coffee or lunch with my tribe or spending the day browsing antique stores. I quickly learned that I needed to take time for myself to be my best for my family.
Share some ways you have tried to incorporate laughter and fun in the midst of the hurt:
I’ve been really intentional to put white space in my calendar so that I can have dance parties in the kitchen with my kids. I’ve carved out time with my best girlfriends & much needed date nights with my man.
Share how this experience has been instrumental in leading you to where you are today:
Today, I’m finally starting to feel like myself again. It’s been a long journey. I’m so thankful for my family & friends who stood by my side during this time when I didn’t know who I was. I’ve learned who my people are & how important they are to me in this life. They never once judged me but were constant in prayer for & with me. I cling to God’s Word & stand firm & know who I am in Him. He calls me His daughter & I am loved beyond measure by Him & knowing & trusting that changes everything!
Share any tips/advice/love for others who have gone through something similar:
If anyone is going through depression I would say don’t be scared to reach out. Talk to someone about it to someone you trust & go seek medical advice. Then open your Bible & let God pour into you.
Here is where you can find Ashley- if you're ready to swoon over some design and/or get some great ideas, definitely check her out!!